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Attack of the Bridezilla: demonic list of demands to bridesmaids goes viral

By Karen | October 26 2012 | 51 Comments

MIRROR Mirror on the wall, who’s the most demanding bride of them all? From the looks of this email that’s gone viral over the past couple of weeks, this US bride has the title in hand.

If you thought being forced into shiny pink taffeta and made to dance with a spotty teenage Groomsman was the worst thing that could happen to you as a bridesmaid, then read on.

In an email sent to and picked up by newspapers like the New York Daily News the bride spells out categorically what she expects of her TEN bridesmaids in the run up to the wedding – namely that they be at her beck and call from February until August next year.

If you’re poor and can’t afford a dress or even one flight to one of the many pre-wedding parties she as planned, then sorry, you’re out. If you have to work and be out of the country and won’t be able to respond to emails, then sorry, you’re out.

Amazingly, with all the demands in the email, this bride still thinks her bridesmaids should be honoured to be in her wedding:

You all have a big roll [sic] in this wedding, so before we continue I’m going to be setting some ground rules and its very important you read and think about everything through before you accept this honor to be a bridesmaid.

She goes on to say:

Also if you accept this honor another thing is that you need to be available, I’m not going to harass you with wedding stuff every hour of everyday but if its something important and it takes you a week even 2-3 days to get back to me seeeee ya! I don’t have time to wait around for responses, everyone has their phone on them, it shouldn’t take you more than a day to get back to me, even if your [sic] out of the country, check your email!

There’s also going to be

  • an engagement party
  • a bridal shower
  • a hen party (in Vegas, natch)
  • and obviously the wedding itself

ALL of the above will require flights and overnight stays. And once you’re in, you’re in, there’s no pulling out regardless of what’s going on in your own life.

As a recent bride, I know if I had sent something like this to my bridesmaids I would have been laughed out of it and told to cop myself on. What do you think – bridezilla or just a bride who knows what she wants?

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