Friendless!!

[Charlotte_30]

Elliesausage- Hi there, hope you had good weekend. What you said about being afraid of getting hurt and thinking this girl will find you boring is the same way I feel about those kind of situations. It is so stressful but nothing ventured nothing gained and the worst that can happen is that you meet for coffee and you don't click so you make your excuses and leave. At least you will have tried and that is the most important thing. I have been doing the internet dating over the summer (dont know where I got the bravery from.) and I always would be worried about what we would talk about but it was never a problem. At least with a girl you have things in common straight away...make up, clothes, soaps, movies, boy trouble etc. This girl is probably feeling the same way as you. I have given up now on the internet dating as they are all MAD!! My plan now is to try and sort myslef some kind of social life...might try an evening class in September or book club...very scary but if I can meet those lads I should (hopefully) be able to do this..

On that note would anyone like to have a coffee morning on Saturday? Maybe at 11am(ish) at St. Stephen's Green Shopping centre, upstairs in the Kylemore is nice and airy and their coffee is good. I feel like I am asking you all out on a date!!! Here is my profile...30 years old or twenty 10 as I prefer to say!...likes reading, movies, cinema, shopping, BEAUT.IE and hates fellas who say "I'll call you tomorrow" and never do...anyway ladies let me know and sure if this Sat doesnt suit we can try another time.

[Pinkrose]

I would but not sure if free saturday and also like Elliesausage bit scared of meeting up with new people... Also i'm only 21 although 40 of the brain so dunno if thats bit young might be bit odd for ye all... student teacher, very homely, love reading and cinema and shopping 2!!

[EllieSausage]

Hi ladies,

Charlotte_30 you are absolutely right- as you said nothing ventured nothing gained!..well done on the internet dating- that sound a bit dawnting so fair play to you!..i'd like to meet,but apart from my phobia about meeting people i'm a few hundred miles from Dub!

Pinkrose...great to hear from you again girl! I'm like you now a few quiet drinks and a chat-as for falling all over the place plastered..been there, done that & worn the hangover!!..don't hardly drink at all now!.. and yes i totally agree tv is shi** thank god for eastenders at the moment-serious drama and something to look forward to..oh my god did i just say that out loud?...i know its easily excite me!!...and even though you say you are only 21 you sound like a very mature lady to me... so don't worry about those other girls. I see my boyfriends neice-she's about 20 and as soon as she went to college- lets just say ammm how do i say it- she's become cocky, stuck up, and full of herself- doesn't leave the house with any less then an inch of make up on!...Now that isn't exactly the picture of the mature lady i think you are but i can imagine many of your friends are just the same???

Go you with laying down the law!!!..Cooking or cleaning up...i think that strategy lasted about a day in our house! But it sounds like you have stuck to your guns- fair play to you! As for the xbox.. ya i had the same problem a few years ago with when the Playstation 3 came out- it is really really annoying!!!...It wasn't so bad after a month or so he got sick of it....since then he goes through phases of it and then he totally forgets its even there!!phew!!..i hate those games!..although i did get fairly addicted to one or two of the games myself & we used to play together-maybe you might like to join in?..if you can't beat em join em!???

Ya we're still in the back of beyonds down south-didn't move far- loving the new place- nice and cosy-last house was like an ice box and we just couldn't face another winter there!..contract was up so we took off like bats outta hell! the house is still a mess..but getting there.. every evening i try and get something unpacked after work- although this evening.. well.. ammmm i decided to relax and chill out!

[Pinkrose]

Hey Elliesausage,
haven't seen eastenders in a while now must tune in again lol
Haha I definitely wouldn't describe myself as cocky or inches of makeup lol Well your right about the "friends" which is probly another reason we don't rely get on any more... i'm more of the other extreme im more like an auld mammy.
do u have to do everythin in ur house then? lol the x box i hate the noise the fact that he goes into a trance and the fact that its there at all lol. ah thats great he let u play my bf won't its his baby and i think he only got 1 controller deliberately so i wouldn't ruin his fun lol! but i think its cous hes scared i'd beat him haha!!

I wonder if we no each other haha that would b weird its not exactly a big place. I no how u feel bout ice jasus every-time i go home my Fathers house OMG freezing!! haha of course if i was u i would be taking every night off to relax lol haha hope ur settling in well

[busterpuss]

Hi all,

I am fairly new to this site but I happened upon this thread because of subject line! Anyway like a lot of you I would be in the same situation I am 32 and pretty much friendless.

The long and the short of it is that i have been burnt by people I would have considered friends and at the moment have 2 close friends, one of which lives in Germany - and the other lives on the other side of the city is married and has a 1 year old baby and while im delighted for her, its hard cos she is in a different place in her life than I am. So although I have a better half who is great and I wouldnt be without but he has his own interests i.e. golf that take up a lot of his time and I dont want to be dependent on him either. I have a couple of others who I would be close with but they have their own circle of friends so I wouldnt see them that often. I just feel at a loss also and this last four months have been hardest 4 months of my life and I have really felt like I needed a girlfriend - cos bfs are just too practical and lets solve this problem etc when all i wanted was a shoulder to cry on!!!

And I know this is ridiculous and petty and ridiculous but like I keep thinking in my head god im going to be gettting married in the next few years and i will only have two friends who will be my bridesmaids and that will be it in comparison to my bfs massive circle of friends etc and i know its fickle i know this and wouldnt be the basis of a friendship or trying to make friends just so the photos look good but its on my mind. how ridiculous is that?!?

anyway thats all just needed to vent and let others know that thank god i amnt the only one!! and now im facing into a weekend of being alone cos the bf is away!!!

ah well if this is the leat of the worries so be it!!!

thanks guys!!

[Pinkrose]

OMG busterpuss,
I no theres an age difference between us but that is exactly how i feel, didn't want to say it but no u have im not ashamed to say thats my biggest worry

I keep thinking in my head god im going to be gettting married in the next few years and i will only have two friends who will be my bridesmaids and that will be it in comparison to my bfs massive circle of friends etc and i know its fickle i know this and wouldnt be the basis of a friendship or trying to make friends just so the photos look good but its on my mind. how ridiculous is that?!?

Thats exactly how i feel

[busterpuss]

Hi Pinkrose,

I feel so stupid but honestly it does play on my mind!!!

And I swear im not fickle!!!

[Pinkrose]

Hey I don't think u are cous if you were i would be too haha!!
I think about this constantly!! I will probly have none

[busterpuss]

Hee Hee!!!

How is your weekend going? I am sitting here drinking vino - waiting for enough time to have passed by on the x factor so that I can fast forward all the ads in my pjs no less!! Have downloaded something borrowed - kate hudson chick flick and am going to watch it after!!

oh the joys of a saturday night eh? Going to have some ben and jerrys coconutterly fair just to add to all crap i have been eating!!

Anyway a leaflet came in the door for evening classes so there is a pottery one starting soon so fek it im going to do it and see what happens!

[Pinkrose]

Ah pretty much the same was also fast forwarding ad's during x factor, watched that new 1 with ant and dec... red or black so glad ur man 1 he seemed genuinely nice! oh and a glass of vino!

awwww brill! i'm an art teacher so i can say potterys fun! im thinking of evening courses too can't start 1 till next summer but really want to start up cake decorating or somethin so probly gonna c what i can do there!!