Friendless!!

[Pinkrose]

heya yer it was grand bank sorted it got his money back thank god!
ooooo very nice was it good? how'd it go?

[Beth TV]

The shopping date was grand; she won as she bought way more than I did Day one of the course was good and looks like it will be money well spent; I'll be the new Bobbi Brown come mid December

[Pinkrose]

haha brilliant! ah love bobbie brown just wish i could afford the stuff lol!

[Beth TV]

God, a Saturday night and nobody free. Looks like Scrabble on Facebook for me

[EllieSausage]

Hey Pinkrose, Beth & whoever else is here!!!..

...well i'm doing ok.. my counsellor has been really great recommending lots of things for me to do lately so i've actually not had much free time!!!...for once in my life i'm not sick of being stuck at home and actually looking forward to going home & relaxing.. so...here is how its all going,
Counselling, swimming & tai chi one evening, a break the next, course the following evening, walking the next eve, walking, shopping (or window shopping as the case may be) the next & some rest & relaxation with the other half the next day!!

All in all i'm feeling a hell of alot better, the walking is actually really really great!..so what have ye girls been up to?

[Pinkrose]

Hey Elliesausage,
so glad everythings looking up for you brilliant to hear your up to so much, we've missed u on here.
Well bit crappy at mo down in the dumps and depressed dunno what to do bout it really. never mind

[Beth TV]

Hi ya Sausage, I'm chuffed to hear you are flying away with the bit in your teeth

I was grand in the end at the weekend; just a bit bored as I had a cold and I wasn't in form for a lot. I genuinely do be busier during the week these days so I almost look forward to Monday's at times

I think we all need to issue tickles to Pinkrose

[EllieSausage]

Hey Pinkrose&Beth,

Pinkrose, i'm no stranger to feeling depressed so i'm no person to be trying to help you with what you should do...but this is my experience and what has helped me..
Counselling once a week, cos whether we know it or not sometimes there are little things niggling away at us that we don't even realise.. for me it was some painful stuff from my childhood that i 'd burried so deep i didn't even remember them until my counsellor dug them out of me. (don't ask me how, but i presume all her years in college had something to do with it! )

Anti Depressants, now i'm not saying your as bad a case as i am/was, but a visit to the doctor and a chat about how i was feeling, really helped, sometimes just chatting to another understanding, professional human being is all it takes for the emotions to come flooding out...i'm not a fan of taking anti-depressants but i have to admit they did help me during a really rough time a year or so ago. Your doctor will point you in the right direction..

Exercise, again anyone how knows me knows i'm a big slob who wouldn't walk to the kitchen to make myself food if i was hungry (during the rough days) BUT i must admit when i get off my ass to go for a walk or a swim or whatever, i might be slow to get up and go, but deep down i now know that i will be feeling 100% better afterwards..its not an easy one , especially with the horrible irish weather, but IT DOES work to knock the depression on its head!

Food, again anyone who knows me well will know i'm very partial to chocolate, sweets, fizzy drinks, take away food (laziness..hate cooking) and all things bad for my body. Now i'm not saying i've turned into an earth mother sort who only eats organic unprocessed foods.. BUT i try and eat some fruit everyday, i TRY (and don't always succeed) at keeping the sweets & crap out, and i try and cook a meal every evenig instead of resorting to the nearest take out..

Looking after myself and doing things i like doing... I was exhausting myself trying to be good to everyone else (so i'd be accepted ) and not really looking at and thinking about the things i enjoy doing, so i've started to go to the cinema an odd time to see a movie i want to see (yes on my own!!! ) and generally taking better care of myself and my beauty regime(which makes me feel better..when i look better)

Now i know i'm rambelling, and this is MY experience and what has helped me feel better, i'm not tryig to advise you or tell you what to do, or even suggesting you do any of this..this is my story and i feel much better, but girl you need to find what will make you feel better and happier.

I'm not out of the woods yet..i'm just starting on this journey of self care, and i've to be very careful to keep it up or i could be back to taking 2/3 prozaic a day..which i do not want to do... and as much as right now you might be feeling like there is no light at the end of the tunnell or that there is nothing you can do to help your situation, always remember 'there are different ways to skin a cat'..crude but true.. there is always an alternative to the route you find yourself going on, and any problem has more then just the one obvious way at solving it.

I know i'm rambelling, but i hope from you hearing my story you can feel better and see that there is light at the end of the tunnell... take care of yourself girl!xxx

[Love in White]

Hi guys, sorry for butting in, but this is a thread very close to my heart, I was friendless for years until I met my best friend through a forum.

OMG busterpuss,
I no theres an age difference between us but that is exactly how i feel, didn't want to say it but no u have im not ashamed to say thats my biggest worry

I keep thinking in my head god im going to be gettting married in the next few years and i will only have two friends who will be my bridesmaids and that will be it in comparison to my bfs massive circle of friends etc and i know its fickle i know this and wouldnt be the basis of a friendship or trying to make friends just so the photos look good but its on my mind. how ridiculous is that?!?

Thats exactly how i feel

I had this situation at my wedding & it was heartbreaking! I don't even talk to the girls who were my bridesmaids now, it's been over 2 years anyway! Did ye meet in the end? Loneliness is the worst feeling I've ever had & I put up with it for years before I met my friend online. It's nice to see you stepping out of your comfort zones to meet others, I was dreading it when I did it but I'm glad now. I'm in Dublin too & in the late 20's (I'm in denial about that, I'll start counting backwards soon! )

[Pinkrose]

Hey EllieSausage thanks for all the advice i'll send u an email in a sec rather than writing a reply on here.

Hi Love in White, no need we love to hear from everyone like i say the more the merrier. Which forum did u meet your friend on? its great u found a friend!! I'm getting more and more depressed about that quote lol!! No we didn't meet yet lol im in my earlier 20's and in denial about that everyone else my age is out with their friends while im stuck inside watching my bf play his xbox lol