Friendless!!

[Pinkrose]

Facebook is a horrible thing i hate seeing how much everyone else is having and agreed bout the saturday night thing!!
theres not even anything good on the TV lol!

A chat option would be great they should add that!!
Yer we should have a better name than the Lonely Club though HAHA!

[EllieSausage]

***Name Suggestion***

The FINE Club....F**ked Up, Insecure, Neurotic & Emotional Club

[Pinkrose]

LOL!

[jellies]

Haha, ah we're not really selling ourselves being in a club named that! ha.

Ah the evening class was just awkward. I moved to England as my boyfriend was moved over with his job, so we knew absolutely no one. So I started some fashion recycling classes, (re-making vinatge clothes into new dresses etc) and it was good. like i enjoyed doing it. There was 8 of us in the class so it was pretty small. And while I got on with the girls I just felt a bit like an outsider. I don't think they did treat me any differently, I think it was maybe just because I was so eager to make friends that I put a lot of pressure on myself which made me go more quiet and shy! Then it was harder because i was different. They were all from the same city, and knew people who knew people and went to similar schools etc etc. Maybe doing some classes here might be different. But I always just feel that people aren't as interested in making new friends as i am, because they have their own groups from school and growing up etc.
If you's do decide to do a class then let me know, and ill show up to and then ill know people there are eager to meet new people to.

[Pinkrose]

I feel the same that people don't rely want to make new friends cause they already ave them from school, college etc

[Charlotte_30]

Hi Ladies, it is amazing how many of us are in this situation. I had a best friend in secondary school but she was actually a bit mad and I only realised it at the end of leaving cert year. She lied to me that she tried to kill herself and all other kinds of mad stuff so I had to cut her out as was very hurt by all the lies. I am 30 now and It is very hard to make new friends as you get older. Every now and then I get very brave and join classes. I did yoga, spanish and cookery. The thing is though they were all on during the winter and I worked in Dublin City Centre at the time and by the time I got back to Lucan I wasnt always able to make the classes so that didnt really work out. It is a good idea to look at the classes as something to do outside of the house rather than putting yourself under pressure to make loads of friends. I think that makes me relax a bit more. I definitely want to be part of this FINE Club!! Maybe we could think about having our own "Meet Up"? We could do a coffee morning or something...just a thought...

[jellies]

Hey Charlotte, welcome to the cool kids club! i would defo be up for a meet up. It'd be nice to meet some people who are feeling the same and not panicking about trying to fit in with new people!

[Charlotte_30]

Jellies- cool! We could do something in August maybe...Where are you at? Would Dublin City Centre be ok? We could do a coffee somewhere, keep it low key and casual? If anyone has any better ideas let us know!

[glossdol]

I can relate to everything everyone has said. There is no easy answer I have tried the classes, I have tried to make friends in work and it never works out. I would love a group of girl buddies to rely on for the odd night out maybe a weekend away. It effects your confidence as even when you met new people you immediately think they probably have loads of friends and they won't include you. My confidence has been totally knocked by girls, it still feels like I am in the playground to be honest but the kids are much older but just as cruel. Rant over girls!

[jellies]

Awh Glossdoll I know exactly what you mean. The thing is I think a lot of it is my own fault, like I dont think people purposly leave me out its more that I can go so quiet I may come across as rude or ignorant and that might put people off! Its a catch-22 situation!

Yeh, Dublin city centre would suit me perfectly! Anyone else interested in coming along?