Can someone help please?,
I have a funny feeling my boyfriend has starting smoking. I found him smoking at my birthday party, he was sneaking around and i followed him and he shoved the cigarette into his friends hand. He says he likes the taste of it when hes been drinking. Now hes working in a kitchen (as a chef) and I know from working as a waitress that the only breaks chefs get is a smoking break, and other chefs he works with smoke.
I saw him with a lighter and he said it was for lighting the gas in work in the mornings when hes working breakfast, but then he said he bought a pack of 5 lighters.
I know I may seem like i don't trust him but he kept the fact that he smoked while drinking from me for 6 months so I'm kinda worried he's keeping this from me as he knows I hate it and hes also lied about it when i asked if he ever tried it.
He says this isn't a big deal and he didn't see the need to tell me that he smoked but both our fathers smoke and both of them had heart attacks in the space of 3 months of each other.
I'm worried that hes smoking and i really don't know what to do about it. its giving such a sick feeling and i'm worried that he thinks it isn't a big deal but after 4 ans a half years together i think it is a big deal. and I don't want to be with an ash tray.
please, does any one have any advice? Am I making a big deal over this?
P.S. I cant ask him straight out because hes living in England on a work placement and I don't want to start a fight over skype.