Comments on: Beaut.ie Blather: Tuesday

By: Shygirl

Shygirl — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 19:05:57 +0000

The frog that is a big leap! Haha!

By: thefrog

thefrog — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 17:59:27 +0000

Orla, it’s good that you are starting to do something.
You’re quite right about the job, from past experience, I know that when you’re not happy in your job it’s very difficult to make the right decisions about the rest of your life, because let’s face it, we spend more time at work than outside and if it’s time we spend being unhappy, then it has a huge impact on the rest on our life.
You do sound like a great girl, so I really hope all will turn well for you.

Now, for something light: I think I may have spent too much time (cough money cough) in Sephora lately. I went from no fidelity card 18 months ago to the gold card (just received it today). Now that’s quite a change from the ‘no make up except mascara’ girl I was a couple of years ago!

By: Shygirl

Shygirl — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 17:35:57 +0000

Yea, like things change in time. Sometimes you just have to let go and step back, and it all works out ok in the end.

By: Orla

Orla — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 17:22:03 +0000

Thanks Shygirl. Since I came to my decision over the past few days I’ve been a lot calmer. I know that even if things do end and change I will be fine. I’ll figure it out.

Mummypupper – I hope you like it now! Hopefully the cookies will help the PMS go away x

By: Shygirl

Shygirl — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 17:08:54 +0000

Orla, well done. Sometimes you are better off taking things slowly and one step at a time. I would be the same as you £1,000 is a lot to walk away from.

By: Orla

Orla — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 17:03:05 +0000

Tweetless, thanks for your message and honestly even though it’s hard to hear so many people telling me that I need to get out I know that you’re all such lovely people that you’re telling me what I need to hear and not what I want to hear.

I have made some decisions – prob not the right ones, but for now it’s as much as I can do.

I’m looking for a new job, because I’m not happy where I am, and I feel that if I find a new job with people that I can become friendly with I’ll be more confident and able to stand on my own two feet.

If I’ve not stood up to him before then I’m moving home to Ireland as soon as my lease is up here. I know it’s a stupid reason to stay and I know you’re all ready to kill me again, but I truly can’t afford to go anyplace now, and I really can’t afford to lose my £1000 deposit so I’m sticking around for now. Hopefully when we speak to the landlord in a couple of months he’ll let us out of our contract early, but for now I’m staying. When I move home I’ll be staying in Dubs with one of my closest friends from college who’s one of the only people that I still feel like ‘me’ around. By me I mean the confident, outgoing me from my college days and not the ‘me’ that lives in london and is unhappy all the time.

Sorry for the essay – just wanted you all to know that I am paying attention and I am making changes. For now I’m not putting up with any of his crap. He’s had his warnings and knows that if he fecks up I’m leaving (he doesn’t know when, but knows that he’ll come home one night and I won’t be there).

By: mummypupper

mummypupper — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 17:01:47 +0000

Thanks a mil Orla,kobo….here I come.
Off now to make cookies with the new cookie cutters pupperette and I bought today.I have bad pms so hoping it doesn’t end up with both of us crying!!!

By: Tweetless

Tweetless — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 16:35:41 +0000

Lauralou, I completely agree with fififinx and tcup. Very often people know themselves that things aren’t right but they put the blinkers on because they’re so used to things being that way, they have themselves convinced that they’re in love and things will change and/or the fear of being alone or starting again frightens them. Change is scarey for some people. I think you can only advise her as best you can and let her know that she is not alone. It’s up to her whether or not she takes your advice. Maybe she’ll just have to learn the hard way – the way we all learned. Most of us who give advice do so based on personal experience – we’ve been through similar situations and come out the other side knowing that things can be so much better but you can’t impart that wisdom on to someone else. Sometimes they have to live through it and come out the other side to realise. I know from my own point of view that it was only after the relationship ended and I looked back at things that I realised how bad it had actually been. At the time, I had chose to ignore it or put up with it for some unknown reason. It’s like last week and on previous occasions when we were advising Orla about her situation. Orla, I had a huge reply written for you last friday when I got time to catch up on the weeks blather. I was fit to shake you because that whole ‘his brother was the same’ crap really got me going. I didn’t send it because I realise that I don’t know you and if I sent it, you’d probably think I was some who wasn’t very sympathetic to you or your situation. The thing is that I am sympathetic and I know how hard it is – I won’t pretend it’s not hard because it is, incredibly so BUT when you do break free of a toxic relationship, you rediscover yourself which is so liberating and equally importantly, you realise that there are other people out there with whom you can have a proper, healthy relationship.

I hope both girls find the confidence and self respect to do what’s best for them. Sorry for the rant.

By: LauraLou

LauraLou — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 15:52:17 +0000

tcup- ill try with her anyway. Dont fret about your man, onto the next one

Thanks everyone for listening to me!

By: Orla

Orla — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 15:21:44 +0000

Daisy that’s great! I love good customer service stories like that!