Comments on: Anti-Rape Campaign Puts the Pressure on Rapists Not Victims http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/ Beauty, Fashion, Life Tue, 21 May 2013 16:35:31 +0000 hourly 1 By: Eimear http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066942 Eimear Wed, 12 Dec 2012 22:22:17 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066942 A difficult ad to watch but unfortunately it’s the type of ad that’s needed.

]]> By: Aisling http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066933 Aisling Wed, 12 Dec 2012 20:42:10 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066933 Fantastic campaign I think!!! Hate the victim blaming thing some people seem to do…a display of pure unadulterated ignorance if you ask me!!! Thanks beaut.ie for drawing attention to important topics like this and not keeping silent for fear of controversy!!! Well done:-D:-D:-D

]]> By: Triona http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066911 Triona Wed, 12 Dec 2012 19:00:01 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066911 Dear Anna, while I like the sentiment of your piece of not blaming victims and educating men .. I’m all for warning women of avoiding certain dangers when they can. To me the first ad above is a a message to keep an eye on your friends especially when they’ve had too much to drink. Why?? Because there are people out there who will take see an easy target and strike. How do I know.. because I was one of those people who got raped when on a night out with friends, got drunk, misplaced friends and got attacked. Yes we can educate as much as we want.. but we don’t leave our front doors open for burglars either. I don’t believe that any woman asks for it and in a ideal world, men should know and act better but we don’t live in an ideal work. I embrace all warning signs to women to try and take their safety into their own hands if they can ( it can only help to try and keep safe). Keep an eye on each other on nights out and nights in… I still have a scare that reminds me of the dangers that can happen…

]]> By: witchgirl26 http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066773 witchgirl26 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 12:11:22 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066773 I think it’s brilliant that there are posts like this on here. I never really realised how much the whole “don’t get raped” slogan was out there instead of the “don’t rape”.

That said I do think girls should get informed on staying safe when out – ie don’t wander down dark alley ways by yourself. I think that’s not just for the “don’t get raped” but also generally a smart idea. Oh & boys should get info on staying safe too in general as I think that can be an issue as well.

]]> By: Anon. http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066608 Anon. Tue, 11 Dec 2012 23:27:34 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066608 As a rape victim when I was 13 years old by my first boyfriend, I definitely applaud any campaign that aims to teach boys/young men/adult men what rape looks like – very rarely done by strangers, and not always in the dramatic Hollywood fashion. They look like this.

However, I found the ad very hard to watch. Given the statistics we’ve all seen about how many women are affected by sexual abuse, watchng a rape being acted out on TV can be a strong trigger. My rape happened almost 20 years ago and I’m still going to have to calm myself down before sleeping tonight to stave off any nightmares (which, still, unfortunatley happen all the time).

Although I’m not sure re-enacting rape is the way to go, it’s great to see educational material that isn’t aimed at teaching girls how to avoid being raped. I also applaud Beaut.ie for having the balls to write these articles. Good for you.

]]> By: Niamh D http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066574 Niamh D Tue, 11 Dec 2012 21:21:37 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066574 I definitely believe that there is a huge need for an educational campaign aimed at men, and boys, to fully educate them on what is and is not consensual sex. It’s frightening that there’s nothing that says ‘This is the line you cannot cross’.

A woman should be allowed to drink and should be safe to walk home alone. She’s not the one doing anything wrong in these circumstances. It’s the attackers whose behavior needs to change, so it’s him who should bet targeted by anti-rape campaigns.

]]> By: joanna http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066532 joanna Tue, 11 Dec 2012 18:51:19 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066532 So pleased to see this campaign! My absolute favourite way of explaining to people why you shouldn’t blame Rape victims is the analogy comparing Rape to Mugging – the man who was mugged was “asking for it” because he was wearing a fancy suit and had been known to give his money away to charity in the past which meant he was loose with his money and therefore it couldn’t be mugging – he’d just given money away and regretted it afterwards so lied and said he hadn’t consented to giving the money away. Absolutely genius analogy as it shows exactly how those victim blaming lines seem ridiculous when applied to anything else. It’s pretty easy to find the full thing on google.

Hope this is the start of a trend towards educating people not to rape rather than not to GET raped!

]]> By: *Aisling* http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066520 *Aisling* Tue, 11 Dec 2012 18:17:30 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066520 Thanks for this Anna. It’s terrible that rape is the only crime which is treated like this. Love to see a campaign like this in Ireland

]]> By: Sara http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066505 Sara Tue, 11 Dec 2012 17:35:55 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066505 Thanks so much for highlighting this issue- it’s worrisome how much the discourse around rape blames the victim. To widen the scope even more I think it’s important to remember that men are also rape victims and women can be perpetrators of rape. Glad to see ads around Dublin highlighting men as victims too.

]]> By: Anna http://beaut.ie/2012/anti-rape-campaign-puts-the-pressure-on-rapists-not-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-1066491 Anna Tue, 11 Dec 2012 16:13:36 +0000 http://beaut.ie/?p=68605#comment-1066491 Thanks for all the comments, folks. It’s a reminder that we’ve all grown up with these “don’t get raped” message and how important it is to challenge it!

Sarah, good to know that the NSPCC are also trying to raise girls’ awareness of these issues too. Their study showed an alarming amount of young girls thought that they “had” to have sex under certain circumstances, whether they wanted to do it or not, which is so depressing.

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